That's where I come in. Instead of moping around about how you don't have anyone or just not caring, why not try your luck and go out on the prowl for someone to break your drought? If you don't know me by now, I'm about progress not complacency. You may not think this is the right time to say that but finding someone to add to the joy and complexity of your life is a positive (if things turn out well of course). I decided to make a short guide to attracting someone you like or are interested in. This may come too late for this upcoming VDay in four days but if you apply some of these tactics and they work, you should have someone to share the love with next year. Let's get it!
GET OUT YO DAMN HOUSE (AND COMFORT ZONE)
Okay, so you actually have to get up and do something if you want to find a mate. Yeah, that means getting your ass off of that couch at the party or putting down that iPod with Drake seeping out the ear buds. Being cooped up in your home or bedroom will not only hinder you from gaining new experiences, but it will also keep you stuck in your current mentality. Go out to parties, sporting events, the park, the back alley somewhere, just go places where socializing is a high possibility. And while you are there, be open to doing things that you usually wouldn't consider doing, like making the first move on some fines ass motherf***** you just spotted.
MAKE THE FIRST MOVE
Alright, you have spotted someone who sparks your interests or that you have immediate attraction too. That's good. Now go say something. Don't sit there just staring at them. I promise you will be in for numerous awkward moments if you do that because they will see you staring at them and get creeped out. So at this moment, put on your big boy/girl pants and say hey or something. Introduce yourself. Make sure at that moment that you two are no longer strangers. Show confidence. That is one of the most attractive qualities any one person can have. At the end of the night/day/conversation/whatever, exchange those 7 digits.
COMMUNICATE
Now that you have that person's number or you have been acquainted with them, talk to them. Communication is the only way things can move forward. Life is no dream. The other person is not just gonna walk up to you and ask you to be their girlfriend/boyfriend instantly. Time to put in work and this is the 500lbs. If you were the aggressor in getting the number, you should be the first person to hit them up. But then again if the other person doesn't have your number you have to hit them up first anyway otherwise their will be no conversation. Personally, I believe that humans nowadays have extremely poor communication skills. Social networking has a part of that but in the end people have just totally went in reverse when it comes to talking to one another. So don't be like everyone else, talk to that one person. HAVE AN ACTUAL CONVERSATION WITH THEM ONCE IN A WHILE WOULD YA. Saying "hey" or "what's up" and continuing to walk while in the halls is adding to the stagnation. Converse about different subjects or things you like in an effort to see what you two have in common. Talking to someone is important because it lets you know whether they are worth your time or not.
FLIRT
Unless you want to be friend zoned, you have to let that person know your intentions. Those intentions of course are to eventually date that person once you two get close enough that you pass out whenever you're in each others presence. So act like it. Break the touch barrier. Hug them, touch their hand, give them a small shove when you are joking with them. Say really smooth things. I remember I was talking to a girl and was like "Didn't expect to see Ms. Illinois just walking around here." Lame right? Well, she ate it all up. Haha. Be playful with them, compliment them. If you see them and they have on a well put together outfit, say that you like it. It makes them feel good and it will improve their disposition towards you. I tend to stay away from complimenting people on general things because there is a good chance it has been said before. Saying that someone has nice lips rather a pretty face can sound creepy and awkward and make people think you pay a lot of attention to detail, but it's genuine and different. Be sure to not overwhelm people with compliments though. It can get old and annoying. You might get to the point to where you're saying you like someone's skin texture just because you want someone to know how much you like them. In actually, you may start to push them away because no one can be completely flattered by a million compliments, makes you sound infatuated when you aren't even close to becoming their mate.
HAVE YOUR OWN LIFE
The hardest part of the courting process is knowing when to take breaks and that you have to give that person their space. You want to be around them so much and talk to them so much that you forget that you still have to live your life and do things alone. You shouldn't talk to the person you like everyday, unless you see them in the hallways or in class where you can't avoid them so you just acknowledge them to not seem like an asshole. Other than that, give them their space. Yeah you talked to them all day yesterday and you can do it everyday, but don't. You're gonna look really needy and annoying. They got shit to do, sorry. And it fluctuates daily, just like your day. So you should act like you got shit to do as well. Go to the gym, go out with friends, focus on your craft/work. Ignore a few of their texts when they text you or end the conversation early. It may make them angry but in an essence, that makes you much more attractive. It makes you more of a challenge. When people don't know about your whereabouts or what you're up to, it builds interests and the more you stay in their minds the better. Nothing more intriguing than mystery and curiosity.
TAKE YO DAMN TIME (BE PATIENT) and CHILL OUT
Hopefully, you nor the person will die anytime soon. So there is no reason to play things as if life is stuck on fast forward. Take your time when you are trying to build something with someone you like. If they didn't have another interest before they started getting involved with you it is unlikely that someone will pop out of nowhere and beat you out. Now it can happen, but don't count on it. And if it does happen, don't let it change your mindset. Still go out with the same plan. Rushing things causes confusion and problems. And it may cause discomfort within that person. You can't go from asking them what their favorite place to eat is to asking them to be your girlfriend/boyfriend when you met them two weeks ago. That's a big jump and it will get you negative results. And in terms of your attitude throughout the entire courting process, you should always be cool, calm and collected. It will happen if there is a connection. If you show that you are a genuine interesting person, it's hard for someone not to like that. Unless they don't then grab that Kleenex.
ASK THAT FUCKING PERSON OUT ON A DATE AND IF THAT GOES GREAT PLUS A COUPLE OTHER ONE'S, ASK THEM TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND. I'M NOT EXPLAINING THIS ANY FURTHER JUST STOP BEING SCARED.
That's 7 steps if CPS didn't fail me on the math tip. 7 things to follow to go from sitting in your room asking yourself why you are without a significant other to hoping you used a condom or he used a condom when you two were last in the presence of each other. Now to clear something up, I am no guru. I'm about 15-85 or worse on the dating tip. But no one is perfect when it comes to courting, unless they married the first person they got. But that's highly unlikely to happen in abundance so expect lots of attempts and fewer successes. I just wanted to share what has worked for me and is commonly effective in the dating world. But nothing is absolutely sure to work, so don't be afraid to put your own touch on things if necessary. Alright, I've done all I can, so now it is up to you whether Ben and Jerry's Ice Cream and splurging on yourself is your usual routine on Valentine's Day. Good luck hunting folks. And here are some links to some stuff you should listen to get in the spirit.
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